The Art of Letting Go

I am currently reading this book by Mizi Wahid. Half way Chapter 10. And one thing that caught me up among all other things which really validate my thoughts were, 'If you want to have peace in your life, you can't have too many rules' - page 30. 

Yes, to be the agent of change (although for yourself) is difficult especially when you're mould in collective society. I am trying to get out from a circle where I think it is not necessary to matters. What I can change is my daughter. I don't want to make too many rules to her and I believe that I shouldn't expect people to do the way I think they should. 

Some other thoughts were 'Trust your instincts. Sometimes logic and facts get too much in the way. Let your intuition be your guide' - page 31. True, sometimes I let my instinct lead myself after some observation and asking insight from others. When things go wrong, my instinct faught a battle to let me questioned. Unfortunately, I had to expect people's response to it. After natural observation, I think some people just don't fit to be someone who openly accept disagreement. That might because they have been blended into some culture. That's okay. The second step that I will do is to graciously avoid - page 65

Realizing that sometimes things are just don't fit with yourself. Just bear that it is not the person is wrong or bad but it is just not fit to your belief and principle. It it not developing a hatred instead, to set boundaries so that you can still holding up your sanity and self-identity.

I learnt that, before you be opened up to people you newly known, you observe to see whether you and them have the same thought patterns like you. Or at least have the attitude of accepting people's differences. Remember what Khalifah Umar RA said, to know a person, you need to observe him/her in three things, while they're as musafir, doing muamalat, and amanah.

In the past, I was afraid of getting left by other people. Getting isolated by people. But now, I believe, sometimes it is good to not know everything same like this saying,

'not invited, don't go'

'not told, don't ask'

'late invite, decline' - well, although not for all events/situations.

'you've never part of the plan, you've suddenly become a convenience' - again, not all things are meant to be like this

But,  yeah, sometimes you just don't need to know everything and to care about everything. Just know what you need to know and do what you need to do. It is just simply a common sense.

Perhaps I will continue writing for next chapters. Still  haven't finish.